I get a lot of baby mail. I had signed up for all kinds of coupons and mailing lists because I was just so excited to participate in everything baby. Most of the mail I get doesn't bother me anymore, I just throw it away.
But today I got an official looking envelope from the Life Span Department at a major university where I live. They are doing a study on language development and had "received your information through public birth announcements or other outlets." That part kind of made me laugh--there definitely wasn't a public birth announcement, sir! It had a permission form included to put "parent name" and "babies name" etc.
Oh, it stung so much. I would have loved to participate in this survey, as a language major in college, and as part of a bilingual home. We were so looking forward to teaching Kayla both English and Portuguese, and we would have thought it was really cool to be part of a study on language acquisition. Just another sorry reminder of the unfairness of stillbirth.
Oh, that blows. I also am numb to most of the mailing and throw them out without even letting it get to me anymore, but it would be hard if there was a specific piece of mail that meant something to me personally. Yuck. I feel your pain.
ReplyDeleteThanks Sam! I actually wrote on the survey "Please remove me from your study--my baby was stillborn." Hopefully that wasn't too weird!
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